Toxic - how to Engage in Presence

When a person communicates their habitual irritations, it could be their needs not having been met and they don’t know how else to convey their disappointment than being erractive, angry, frustrated or impatient. They have built up their disappointments until they only know to reciprocate inconsiderately.

How could we complement their difficult emotions?

Firstly, by being aware and understanding. Why have they so much grief in having their needs unmet? When their particular need is unmet, how considerable is that failure in meaning when their need is unmet, how detrimental is it to them and how considerable should there be a failure being unmet?

Next, understand their relationship patterns. Have they had relationships that have been uncommunicative? Have these relationships have had a great impact in them, in their lives? How do they handle most of their relationships.

Now, their relationship constant communication patterns. On an overall, how does their temperament build up in their responding towards their family, peers, colleagues and others.

Are these outbursts often? Have they been frequently ignored, thus, creating their habitual frustration?

Now, the empowerment is in you acknowledging their need and identify ways to cope, to help out, to be present, to be understanding, to be aware and to be proactive.

NegatIve emotions are toxic and unhealthy not only for the relationship but also the one who has learnt the only way to respond is via negative outbursts.

We can sit down and reflect when we have time and try to understand how important their needs are to be satisfied. Why & How.

When we start connecting proactively and positively in our relationships, we grow, learn, express positively and support one another emotionally. We relinquish the negativity and knots that used to appear in every communication.

Overall our relationships improve, we heal, we connect, we support, we change, our temperaments adjust naturally and could help reactivity to become responsively.

Are any of your relationships needing change today? Take a reflective moment to contemplate “why” and “how”. I wish you a fulfilling engagement in presence today!